Friendship is a value that has inspired many famous, authors, philosophers and public figures in their workings and till these days, friendship is still an important virtue that goes through challenging times, due to a shift in consumerism, ulterior motives and surface values e.g focusing too much on our outer appearance and not on internal values. Famous author, teacher and activist Helen Keller once quoted that “ Walking with a friend in the dark is better than working alone in the light” while Chinese philosopher Mencius supported that “Friends are the siblings God never gave us”.
We actually need a true friend to support us in both the good times and bad times of our lives, one with whom we can share our utmost secrets without any fear of rejection and one that helps us unveil the best versions of ourselves.
You might see them every day, once a year, or less. Or, you might hardly see them, but keep in touch by phone, email, or online. Friends might come and go, they might make you laugh and cry, but most importantly of all, they love you for who you are. It doesn’t matter what a person looks like or what kind of clothes they wear. It’s what’s on the inside that counts and your friends should know that about you. Likewise, having friends means you have a responsibility to be there for them too, even when the going gets tough.
After a survey was done on « what are the qualities that make a good friend? », here were the answers.
- you can trust won’t judge you
- won’t deliberately hurt your feelings, but will show kindness and respect
- will love you not because they feel they have to, but because they choose to
- you can depend on, who is loyal and whose company you enjoy
- will be there no matter what your situation is
- is trustworthy and not afraid to tell you the truth, no matter how hard it is sometimes
- can laugh when you laugh
- will cry when you cry
- makes you smile
- accepts you for who you are, and lend you an ear when you need to whine or complain
- will give you room to change.